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10 Important Things Every Couple Should Do Before Getting Married💍

Love is all you need, but sharing these 10 experiences before you say "I do" will make married life that much sweeter. Once you and your partner decide to get married, it can feel like one, swift free-fall toward the big day.


To deepen and strengthen your bond—and make the transition into married life even smoother and breezier—here are 10 important things that wedding and marriage experts recommend couples do together before they get married.


 



1 Understand each other's values

Long before making that commitment to spend the rest of your lives together, it's important to communicate and discuss your individual values and beliefs, such as religion, family dynamics and rituals, and politics. "You may not always agree, but you need to respect each other's viewpoints and ensure that they're not a deal-breaker before walking down the aisle" says Brittany Drye. If you do find yourselves on opposite ends of the spectrum in one area, know that it can still work, but it might take some extra effort and pre-planning in your relationship to decide how to handle conflict before it happens.



 


2 Take a trip


Traveling together gives you a chance to see how you each handle stressful situations, which is valuable insight for your future life together, says Marisa Manna Ferrell of So Eventful in Healdsburg, Calif. Even if you've mastered the art of the couple getaway already, this is a good time to consider an engagement-moon. "It lets you decompress," says Megan Velez of Destination Weddings Travel Group in Boston. So if you haven't skipped town together yet, book a trip! It doesn't need to be faraway, lengthy, or expensive, either. Road trips, camping trips, domestic weekend getaways in a home rental—they're all great ways for couples to share experiences outside their usual routines, make new memories, and get used to solving problems (a flat tire, hotel hiccups, cancelled flights) as a team. And, of course, they're fun and romantic. If you're booking a more traditional stay, Velez recommends making it easy on yourself and consider an all-inclusive resort, which gives you the chance for down time without having to worry about details once you get there.


 


3 Have the money talk

You and your significant other should agree on fundamental topics like finances, even though they're not always fun or easy to discuss. " The future may not exactly be on your mind when you're in your 20s, but it's crucial to have this discussion ahead of time so you're not finding yourself in situations down the road that could do damage to your marriage," Drye says. Talk about how you'll share/divide living expenses, how you plan to live, and whether you both expect to work until retirement.


 


4 Talk about kids

Like the money talk, the conversation about kids is an important one. Do you both want them? If so, how many? Share your vision before you exchange vows. "Having children is a huge commitment, personally and financially, for the rest of your lives, and does change your relationship with your partner," says Beth Bernstein. "Couples go into marriages thinking it's something they can work out later, or one thinks they can change the other person's mind, but it rarely ends well. It's important to agree on this one from the beginning"


 

5 Take dance lessons together

Consider taking dance lessons, but for an entirely different reason than you may expect. "Yes, it's a great way to learn how to move on the dance floor with one another, but equally as important, it's time where you can literally step away from the stresses of planning," says Kevin Dennis of the wedding business intelligence company, WeddingIQ in Washington, D.C. It's an opportunity to learn together, laugh together, and spend time together, phones down and focused on each other.


 


6 Live together


More than three-quarters of couples married last year (77%) lived together before getting married (source WeddingWire's 2020 Newlywed Report) and for good reason! Not only does living together before marriage have economic benefits (one rent instead of two? Yes, please!), it's arguably the best way to test your compatibility with each other. "It's important to learn the good, the bad, and the just plain ugly about your partner—their weird habits, their cleanliness, their morning routine—and make sure you're domestically compatible" Drye says. If you can't or don't want to live together prior to marriage, perhaps to due geographic location or religious reasons, at least aim to spend weekends together.


 


7 Play the name game

Have a candid conversation about any name changes before tying the knot. "It's easy to assume someone is going to take the traditional route, but these days, we're seeing so many different paths taken, it's best to visit the topic early," says Ritchie, Co-Founder of our very own wedding management company, BRIITBOYS. Whether you decide to take your spouse's last name, keep your own, combine the two, create a new last name, or choose something else entirely, consider the implications for both of your families and any future children that might come from your marriage.


 

8 Meet each others' favourite people

"Whether it's their inner circle of friends or an entire extension of family, getting to know the most important people in each others' lives gives you insight into who the other is as a person" Drye says. If time and geography permit, spend time together and really get to know your partner's loved ones. (If not, luckily there are more ways than ever to connect virtually!) Building strong relationships with your significant other's close family and friends will also deepen the bond between the two of you.


 

9 Get a puppy together

We all know dogs bring joy into our lives, but new research says they could be working wonders for our relationships, too. A recent study has found that couples who share a dog are happier than those who do not.The survey, carried out by Rover.com, found that 60% of couple owners said that bringing up a dog together made their relationship stronger. What’s more, half of the participants said their canines had helped them spend quality time together, as a couple.Nothing beats a romantic walk in the park, after all. Around 88% of those surveyed said raising a mutt requires teamwork and 65% agreed that trust is needed, too. Both are very important factors needed for a relationship to thrive.


 


10 Take engagement photos

If you're not sure whether you want to have engagement photos taken before the wedding, go ahead and do it. "It's a great opportunity to get to know your photographer a bit better" says Keith Phillips of Classic Photographers in Boston. After all, you're about to spend a really important day of your life with him/her, so breaking the ice early can be a smart way to make you feel more comfortable in front of the camera when your wedding day arrives. It's also a chance to laugh at awkward moments, loosen up in front of the camera together, get even more psyched for your big day, and just be totally wrapped up in each other for a few hours—something every couple deserves.

 

Thank you to Kelsey Ogletree of Real Simple and Metro News for inspiring our post💛💛


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